Tips for personalizing your vows
Some couples like to write their own vows. Personal vows can be recited before the more traditional vows offered in our scripting or just on their own. We offer some tips and ideas for writing your own personal vows that couples have used in the past and some that can include children.
- What is the single greatest thing about the person you are going to marry?
- When did you know that you were in love/ know that this person was the one you wanted to marry
- What does marriage mean to you?
- Why do you want to be a married to this person?
- What is your most favorite memory of your partner?
“I, _____, trust you, ____, to be my guide on this journey through the rest of my life. I trust that you will forgive and forget my mistakes, and celebrate my triumphs. I promise to do the same and look forward to learning as much as we can, together, as team. From the moment we met, I have discovered a unique bond with a truly special person. My life has forever changed, and now with you in my life, each day is truly a gift."
"__________, you have brought back the sunshine to my soul, the joy to my days, and love to my life. I take you now as my husband/wife. May every moment of our lives be full of an awareness of our existence for each other. My heart is open and my soul rejoices this day as we become one."
"______,I take you this day as my wife/husband because you are my beloved, the one I have chosen to journey with me through my remaining days. You are my princess/prince, my companion, my lover and my friend, and I promise that wherever our journey leads and whatever its outcome, I will love you and cherish you."
"___, I take you ____ to be my (husband/wife), my partner in life and best friend. I will cherish our union and love you more each day than I did the day before. I will trust you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, loving you faithfully through good times and bad, regardless of the obstacles we may face together. I have known you for many years that I feel you are a part of me. With you, I have discovered what love truly means. Today I give you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forward for as long as we both shall live."
"I love you. You are my best friend and true love. Today I give myself to you in marriage. I promise to encourage and inspire you, to laugh with you in times of joy, and to comfort you in times of sorrow and struggle. I promise my love to you even when life gets tough. I promise to cherish you, and to always hold you in highest regard. These things I give to you today, and all the days of our life."
“Like the petals from a rose, like the grains of sand on the beach, I will always be there for you. To shelter you from the storm in good times and in bad. _____, you are the love of my life and I will always see the joy we will have together.”
“ ______, you are the most unbelievable person I have ever met. You have been amazingly wonderful to me since the day we met. I I love the way you really know how to make me smile even when I am stressed out. You are my rock, my one true love and best friend. I look forward to sharing many adventures and growing old with you. Forever I vow to hold you in my heart."
“I love you as I love no other. All that I am I share with you. You are everything that's good and pure."I love that you appreciate the little beauties of life and live each day to the fullest. The way you start your day with joy and enthusiasm. How blessed I am to be able to love and cherish you for the rest of my life”
“Some people wait a lifetime to find happiness in the form of true love. I was lucky enough to find you. I will never forget that our bond together is a treasured one. From the moment I first saw you, I knew you were the one with whom I wanted to share my life. Your beauty, heart, and mind inspire me to be the best person I can be. I promise to love you for eternity, respecting you, honoring you, being faithful to you, and sharing my life with you. I will honor your goals and dreams and do my best to help you to fulfill them. As I stand before family and friends, I pledge this, my vow to you, and ask you to be my wife/husband."
"____. today I take you for my (wife/husband/partner). I promise to love you without reservation, comfort you in times of distress, encourage you to achieve all of your goals, laugh with you and cry with you. You are sweet, brilliant and fun! I truly adore you, and will tenderly care for you for all the days of my life."
I want to grow with you in mind, and spirit. I promise to be open and honest with you, and cherish you for as long as we both shall live."
"Dear ____, Today I pledge to you what has already been yours for so long -- my eternal love. You are so beautiful and smart, strong yet gentle. I love the way you can ignore the rest of the world and all of it's conventions. Your sense of humor brightens each day. I promise to walk hand-in-hand with you through life's journeys. No matter what lies in our path, it will be our path, together. In the joys and troubles that lie ahead of us, I will be faithful and loving to you. This is my solemn vow."
Adding humor to you Vows
Add an extra promise to your vows. examples "I promise to make your favorite chocolate chip pancakes on Sundays. "I vow to split the difference on the thermostat." “I love you even though your second love is ice fishing.”
Wedding vows to include children
"My love, You have already given me the two greatest gifts of my life:
your love, and our beautiful child. (children) Today, it is my honor to become your wife/husband. I promise to continue building our family together, celebrating our joy, comforting one another in hard times, and strengthening our family's future. I vow to love and cherish you for all the days of my life."
Wedding vows with one partner having a child
"____, you are my soul mate and best friend. Today I ask you to be my wife/husband and companion. I commit myself to you for the rest of our lives together and beyond. Please share with me in guiding my (boys/girls or children),_____ (child 1) and ______,(child 2) as we unite as a family. " (or unite our families if both partners are involving children.
Not only do I promise to be a good husband/wife to you, but I also give my promise to be a patient, loving father/mother to __________ and________, caring for them and providing for them as my own. I promise to be their strength and their emotional support, loving them with all my heart from this day forward.
Wedding Vows including Children with gift
________ (Child or children) Would you please come and join ________ (Couples names )
________ & _________(Couple) would like to present this ________(necklace, bracelet, family unity pendant, etc.)as a symbol of family unity, representing the hope and joy made visible through this marriage being celebrated today. This ________(necklace, bracelet, ring, or other token) represents your family and your love for each other. In the giving of this ________ (token), do you both pledge to _______________(Child or children) your commitment to surround and support _______ (him/her/them) with unconditional love as you all share in your new life together?Couple responds "We do" and places the item on the child.
_______________, I love your Mom/Dad very, very much, and today I have taken her/him as my wife/husband. But you know that I love you dearly as well. I want to be as a father/mother to you, and I invite you into my heart. We will have happy times together, you and your Mother/Father and I. And with this (ring or other token) I pledge to you my love.